Posted on September 27, 2010 by admin

Yup it is true. Just like the rest of us, your daughter wants to be respected and heard. Be a “safe” and available person to talk to. Offer space and time to have her thoughts and opinions heard.

Even if you don’t agree with them, you are allowing them to be heard and allowing her to feel understood. Keep these four pointers in mind when listening to your girl.

1) Listen openly, before passing judgment.
2) Listen for her point of view.
3) Listen for the underlying issue.
4) Keep the focus on your girl and off of yourself.

Taking these steps translates into feeling more loved, supported and validated. What a wonderful gift to give your child.

Need positive ways to help your daughter with self expression so she can further develop her self confidence? Have her create a collage including all the wonderful unique qualities that make her so special and share 5 unique qualities with her that you love about her too.

Elissa Bowes, MA, ATR-BC, LCAT, a nationally board certified, registered Art Therapist, works with emotionally challenged, and at-risk children, adolescents, adults, and families and as a consultant to organizations throughout New Jersey. Request her FREE report, “Is Your Daughter Driving You NUTS? 10 Things You Must Know To Keep You From Losing Your Mind Or Pulling Out Your Hair In The Process” by visiting www.higherartnj.com .