5 Tips to Help Your Girl Survive Change
Posted on March 09, 2011 by admin
- Help her become prepared. Help her be ready and think ahead so she might know what to expect, instead of being unprepared or surprised. Together, create a list of things your girl might be wondering about and find answers or problem solve around each one of them.
- Help your girl think about past experiences that she was nervous about that turned out OK. Remind her that everything turned out OK with that transition and most likely will with this one too. These successes are important to always keep in your back pocket so you can pull them out and remind her when necessary!
- Help her become courageous. This one is my favorite and one I share with the girls often. Being brave has nothing to do with being unafraid of new things. It means having and feeling fear and doing it anyway. Each time she does something that requires courage she will become stronger and more confident.
- Help her have a positive outlook with this transition instead of a negative one. How can this transition serve her or serve others? What will be her ‘take away’ from this transition? Perhaps she will gain something that she would never had the opportunity to gain had she never experienced this transition.
- Try not to fix everything for her. A part of growing up and maturing is realizing there are struggles and there is constant change. Be there as a support but try not to take over and protect her from everything. The more she experiences the better prepared she will be.
If the one constant is constant change then lets invest in our response to our girls now and help support her through her next transition so she can handle what comes her way when she is an adult!
If your relationship with your daughter is stressing you out and you want more ways to create a positive and healthy relationship with her, please call 732-252-5489 or email: elissa@higherartnj.com to begin to make some positive changes!
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